John TRINDER (1814–1886)
His second wife Mrs Mary Ann TRINDER, née Dore (1813–1855)
Their infant daughter Sarah Ann TRINDER (born and died 1855)
Plus a mention of his first wife Mrs Jennet Trinder who died in the East Indies in 1842,
his infant son by his third wife Eleazar Jabez Erasmus Trinder (1867–1868)
St Paul (St Barnabas) section: Row 28, Grave H19½ [St Paul ref. O24 or P24]
IN MEMORY OF
OF THE OXON MILITIA
WHO DEPARTED THIS LIFE JUNE 29 1886
AGED 71 YEARS
ALSO OF JENNET THE BELOVED
WIFE OF THE ABOVE
WHO DIED AT ARCOTT IN THE EAST
INDIES DEC. 16 1842 AGED 24 YEARS
ALSO OF MARY ANN SECOND
WIFE OF THE ABOVE, DIED FEB 19 1855,
AGED 42 YEARS
[Jennet Trinder, not buried here]
M. A. T.
[Mary Ann Trinder]
E. J. E. T.
[Eleazar Jabez Erasmus Trinder]
[probably S. A. J.]
[Sarah Ann Trinder]
John Trinder was born in Bayworth, Sunningwell, Berkshire on 15 August 1814 and baptised there on 4 September. He was the son of the labourer George Trinder and his wife Ann.
John Trinder joined the army. He and his first wife Jennet (surname unknown) had one child:
- Ann Isabella Trinder (born in Enniskillen, Ireland in c.1837).
John's first wife Mrs Jennet Trinder died at Arncot in the East Indies at the age of 24 in December 1842.
John Trinder's second wife Mary Ann Dore
Mary Ann Dore was born in Abingdon in 1813 and baptised at St Helen's Church on 7 February. Her parents were the weaver James Dore and Ann Payne, who were married at St Helen's on 6 April 1801. They had eight other children baptised at that church: Frederick (1806), Elizabeth (1808), James (1810), Sarah (1915), Joseph (1820), Charles (1822), Caroline (1824), and Eliza (1826).
On 13 January 1845 at St Helen's Church, Abingdon, John Trinder made Mary Ann Dore his second wife. They had the following children:
- Comfort Matilda Trinder (born at 6 Church Street, Gloucester in 1846 and baptised at St James's Church there on 9 May), died in Gloucester the same year
- Fanny Trinder (born in Gloucester in 1848, reg. third quarter)
- Sarah Ann Trinder (born at Portland Place, Oxford at the very end of 1854 and baptised at St Paul's Church on 6 January 1855); died aged ten days.
At the start of their marriage the couple lived in Gloucester, and John Trinder was described as a railway servant at the baptism of their daughter Comfort in 1848.
By the time of the 1851 census they had moved to Oxford, and John Trinder (37) was working as a farm labourer and living at Jericho Gardens with his second wife Mary Ann (38) and their daughter Fanny (2), and his daughter Ann (11) by his first wife. He was later described as a gardener.
Mary Ann died at Portland Place (the lower end of Cardigan Street) in 1855, seven days after giving birth to Sarah Ann, and the baby only survived another three days. Both mother and baby were buried together in this grave on the same day:
† Mrs Mary Ann Trinder née Dore died at Portland Place at the age of 42 on 19 February 1855 and was buried at St Sepulchre’s Cemetery on 22 February (burial recorded in the parish register of St Paul's Church).
Her infant daughter Sarah Ann Trinder who had died aged ten days, was buried with her.
John Trinder's daughter by his first wife was married a few months later:
- On 9 April 1855 at St Thomas's Church, Oxford, Ann Isabella Trinder (18) of Portland Place married
Alfred Pancott (22) a labourer of Church Street and the son of the labourer Charles Pancott.
John Trinder's third “wife” Caroline Dore
Caroline Dore was born at Broad Street, Abingdon in 1824 and baptised at St Helen's Church on 11 July. She was the younger sister of John Trinder's second wife Mary Ann.
At the time of the 1851 census Caroline (23) was a seamstress, lodging with the Mills family in Bury Lane, Abingdon. It is possible that she came to Oxford to look after her brother-in-law John Trinder and his young daughter after her sister's death.
Near the end of 1855 Caroline (31) gave birth to an illegitimate daughter, who was later acknowledged by John Trinder to be his own child:
- Lucy Dore (born in Abingdon in 1855, reg. fourth quarter there with the surname Dore); later known as Lucy Trinder.
In the second quarter of 1857 in Oxford, John Trinder went through a marriage ceremony with Caroline Dore, notwithstanding the fact that she was his deceased wife's sister (which from 1835 to 1907 was an illegal union). Caroline stated in the 1911 census that she had eleven children in all with John Trinder (all of whom would have been illegitimate, as their parents' marriage was invalid). Some of them may have died very young and it has only been possible to identify the following:
- Henry James Trinder (born at Woolwich on 4 March 1858 and baptised on 9 May);
died near the beginning of 1859 in Farnham
- John Trinder (TWIN: born in Oxford in 1860, reg. second quarter)
- Joseph Trinder (TWIN: born in Oxford in 1860, reg. second quarter)
- Enos Jesse Trinder (born in Oxford in 1862 and baptised at St Paul's Church on 8 June)
The Vicar added this note to Enos's baptismal entry in the parish register: “The Mother, sister to Sergeant Trinder's Late Wife, and illegally married to him”
- William James Trinder (born in Oxford in 1864 and baptised at St Paul's Church on 23 October)
- Eleazar Jabez Erasmus Trinder (born at Wellington Street, Oxford in late 1867 and baptised at St Paul's Church on 5 January 1868); died shortly after birth
- Matilda Mary Jane Trinder (born at Canal Street, Oxford in 1869 and baptised at St Paul's Church on 28 March).
At the time of Henry's baptism in 1858, John Trinder was described as a Serjeant in the Oxfordshire Militia, and the family was staying at Woolwich, presumably in the barracks.
They had settled in Jericho in Oxford by 1860. In Jackson's Oxford Journal on 9 June 1860, it was reported that John Trinder of Jericho was found guilty of indecent exposure in the University Parks, and one of the O'Shea brothers who was carving images on the front of the University Museum witnessed it. The man buried in this grave was the only one called John Trinder who was living in Jericho at this time, and he was a gardener. The incident took place around the time his quasi-wife was giving birth to twins:
John Trinder was charged with wilfully and indecently exposing his person in the Parks, on Tuesday and Wednesday last, to the annoyance of several ladies. The offence was clearly proved by Mr. O'Shea, one of the ornamental sculptors, and Mr. Holt, one of the ornamental painters, employed at the New Museum. They gave information to the police, and having described the man, who is a gardener living in Jericho, he was taken into custody. The Magistrates sentenced him to three months' hard labour, and expressed their regret that the law would not allow them to inflict a more severe punishment for such disgraceful conduct.
At the time of the 1861 census, John Trinder (46), described as a Staff Sergeant in the Oxford Militia, was living at 40 Wellington Street with his third “wife” Caroline (36) and their children Lucy (5) and twins John and Joseph (eleven months), plus John's surviving child by his first wife, namely Fanny (12).
Their son Eleazar Jabez Erasmus Trinder, who was born in 1868, died just eleven days after his baptism, and was buried at St Sepulchre's Cemetery on 16 January 1868. The St Paul's plot reference is M24, so he was probably buried in the section for infants rather than in this plot.
At the time of the 1871 census, John Trinder (56) was described as a labourer again. He was living at 11 Canal Street with Caroline (46) and their children John & Joseph (10), Enos (8), William (6), and Matilda (2).
In 1881 John Trinder (66) was described as a gardener and was living at 11 Canal Street with Caroline (56) and three of their children: Enos (18), whose occupation his hard to decipher but who was later an electro-typer; William (17) who did printing machine work; and Matilda (12), who was still at school.
Their son Enos was married in 1883:
- In the third quarter of 1883 in Oxford, Enos Jesse Trinder married Alice Ann Fenemore Gulliver.
John Trinder died in 1886:
† John Trinder died at 1 Canal Street at the age of 71 on 29 June 1886 and was buried at St Sepulchre’s Cemetery on 3 |July (burial recorded in the parish register of St Barnabas's Church).
At the time of the 1891 census his “widow” Caroline (65) was living at 1 Canal Street with her youngest daughter Matilda (22) who was a paper folder (probably at Oxford University Press). She also had two lodgers.
Her daughter Matilda was married in 1892:
- On 17 April 1892 at St Barnabas's Church, Oxford, Matilda Mary Jane Trinder (23) married Frederick Thomas William Brown (24), who was a carman and the son of the engineer Henry Brown.
In 1901 two of Caroline's children were still living with her: Joseph (40), who was a lamplighter, and Mrs (Matilda) Mary Brown (31), whose own five children were all dead: she was a laundress and appears to have left her husband. They also had a boarder.
Caroline (86) was still at 1 Canal Street in 1911, and stated that five of her eleven children were still alive. The same two children were still with her as at the last census: Joseph (51) was now a general labourer with Oxford Corporation, and Mrs Mary Brown (41) was now working for the Littlemore Steam Laundry.
Caroline Trinder died in Oxford the following year (1912) at the age of 87. It is uncertain where she was buried.