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Miss Emma MAILING (1872–1898)
St Paul (St Barnabas) section: Row 45, Grave H19

Emma Mailing was born in Jericho, Oxford on 20 September 1872 and baptised at St Barnabas’s Church on 13 October. She was the seventh and youngest child of Henry Mailing (born in Oxford in c.1837) and Mary Tooley (born in Bicester in c.1841) who were both living in Church Street, Oxford when they were married at St Thomas's Church on 29 November 1856.

Emma’s father was a shoemaker, and by the the time of the 1861 census he and his wife were living at 26 St Thomas’s Street with their first two children James (4) and Harriet (two months).

By 1871 they had moved to Jericho, where they were to spend the rest of their lives: the census shows them at 13 Jericho Street with their first six children: Henry (13), Harriet (10), Thomas (8), Sarah (5), Elizabeth (4), and James (1). Their last child, Emma herself, was born in 1872.

At the time of the 1881 census Emma (8) was living at 8 St Barnabas’s Street with her parents and her three older brothers: Henry (24) was a carpenter, Thomas (18) was a baker’s assistant, and James (12) was at school. Emma’s three sisters had already left home and were at work: Harriet (21) was the cook of the Rector of Hethe, Oxfordshire; Sarah (17) was the servant of a solicitor in Millbrook, Hampshire; and Elizabeth (14) was a nurse at the Radcliffe Infirmary.

By 1891 Emma (17) was working as a housemaid, but was still living in Jericho with her parents and her brothers Thomas and James.

On Lady Day 1896, the Oxford Board of Guardians reported that Emma Mailing, aged 24, had been a lunatic in the Littlemore Asylum at the cost of the corporation in the previous year; and this was repeated on Lady Day 1898, when she was 26.

Emma died in the spring of 1898. Her home address was still her parents’ house at 8 St Barnabas Street, but she must have died in Littlemore Asylum, as her death was registered in the Headington district:

† Miss Emma Mailing died at the age of 26 on 24 May 1898 and was buried at St Sepulchre’s Cemetery on 28 May (burial recorded in the parish register of St Barnabas’s Church).

Emma’s parents were living on their own at 8 St Barnabas Street in 1901, and Henry (64) was still working as a shoemaker.

Emma’s father Henry Mailing died at 8 St Barnabas Street at the age of 69 on 12 August 1904. It is uncertain where he is buried, as there is no record in the register of St Barnabas’s or St Paul’s Church. His effects came to £717 10s. 5d., and his wife was his executor.

In 1911 Mrs Mary Mailing (79) was at 10 St Barnabas Street with her unmarried daughter Sarah (45), who was a domestic servant. Mary put in the occupation column “No work too old”, and stated that six of her seven children were still alive.

Emma’s mother Mrs Mary Mailing was still living at 10 St Barnabas Street in 1915. She died there at the age of 84 near the end of 1915, and was presumably buried with her husband.